FOR PEACE TO REIGN IN MARRIAGES
We are close to the yuletide. We are all aware that this festive season brings with it financial strain and drain; as most couples struggle to make the day a memorable one for their children, spouses, family members, colleagues and friends alike.
My advice is that Couples should not go the extra mile to please visiting relatives who will drain the lean purse of the family and leave you to grapple with your financial helplessness.
Nobody will lend you a dime when untoward situations arise because they fed fat on you. Most will blame you for not anticipating and planing that emergency can occur at anytime.
You owe yourself and family members of being put on the first priority list before any other individual. Decline visits rather than squander the little finance meant for running your family affairs. There will always be other Christmas celebration in future, if God spare our lives to witness them..
The ritual of clothes buying for children is not compulsory. Add colourful accessories to old clothing to make them look spectacular, and they are good to go. The Christmas hype of compulsory new apparels/accessories are not worth it.
Open your wardrobe and select old clothes that you can mix rather than go for a whole shopping spree and go hungry in January 2018.
The papers may say there is no recession but you and I know things are still difficult and the purchasing power of the naira has been grossly eroded.
Moderation is the key!
I decided to share once again Pastor Oyedepo's 12 point guide for all couples and intended ones, so we can maintain peace in our homes at this period of festivities.
Let's learn to embrace peace and shun all forms of acrimonious tendencies. Let's show and share love, not violence.
Give peace a chance in your homes.
1. There is nothing that threatens the security of a man than the thought of another man competing for the attention and affection of his wife. Nothing is more painful. Nothing is more disrespecting. Nothing is more insulting. Nothing is more belittling and degrading.
2. Marriage flourishes when the couple work together as a team; when both husband and wife decide that winning together is more important than keeping score.
Good marriages don't just happen. They are a product of hard work.
3. Your children are watching you and forming lasting opinions on love, commitment, and marriage based on what they see in you. Give them hope. Make them look forward to marriage.
4. Husbands: The reason why other women look attractive is because someone is taking good care of them. Grass is always green where it is watered. Instead of drooling over the green grass on the other side of the fence, work on yours and water it regularly. Any man can admire a beautiful woman, but it takes a true gentleman to make a woman admirable and beautiful.
5. When a husband puts his wife first above everyone and everything except God, it gives his wife the sense of security and honor that every wife hungers for.
6. A successful marriage doesn't require a big house, a perfect spouse, a million dollars or an expensive car. You can have all the above and still have a miserable marriage. A successful marriage requires honesty, undying commitment and selfless love and Jesus at the center of it all.
7. Pray for your spouse every day; in the morning, in the afternoon and at evening. Don’t wait until there is a problem. Don’t wait until there is an affair. Don’t wait until something bad happens. Don’t wait until your spouse is tempted. Shield your spouse with prayer and cover your marriage with the fence of prayer.
8. The people you surround yourself with have a lot of influence on your marriage. Friends can build or break your marriage; choose them wisely.
9. One spouse cannot build a marriage alone when the other spouse is committed to destroying it. Marriage works when both husband and wife work together as a team to build their marriage.
10. Don't take your spouse for granted. Don't take advantage of your spouse's meekness and goodness. Don't mistake your spouse's loyalty for desperation. Don't misuse or abuse your spouse's trust. You may end up regretting after losing someone that meant so much to you.
11. Beware of marital advice from single people. Regardless of how sincere their advice may be, most of it is theoretical and not derived from real life experiences. If you really need Godly advice, seek it from God-fearing, impartial and prayerful mature couples whose resolve has been tested by time and shaped by trials.
12. Dear wife, Don't underestimate the power of the tongue on your marriage. The tongue has the power to crush your marriage or build it up. Don't let the Devil use your tongue to kill your spouse's image, self-confidence and aspirations.
Let God use your tongue to build up your marriage and bless as well as praise your spouse.
Good morning all.
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