MARRIAGE IS HARD WORK! !!!!!!
I used to interpret the saying "Marriage is not for small boys" to mean small boys in terms of age, until I visited a female mentor that has been in marriage for 47 years.
I asked, so what is the secret of your over 47 years in marriage?
Beaming, she retorted; My son, the
expectations you bring into marriage will
either spell its doom or success. I married my
husband without expectations of enjoying his
money or buying cars for me, but with time,
my patience, hard work and God-fearing
attitude yielded results of getting cars, houses,
taking care of our children and all that.
You see, if a married lady keeps on nagging in
the house, she pushes the spirit of her
husband from the home. If you make the man
unhappy, you make the house uncomfortable.
So, I married without high expectations from
my husband but simply to make him happy
Yes, for the past 47 years, I would be the first
to get up from bed and the last to go back to
bed. I bath the kids, do devotions with them,
prepare breakfast for my husband and boil hot
water for him to bath. I iron his dresses he
would take to work, kiss him and wish him the
best in his daily endeavours.
I asked my old woman, so then what does the
man do in return? She laughed all heart and
hearty and replied; You see, this is the
mistake you young ones make in marriage.
YOU DO SOMETHING TO YOUR HUSBAND OR
WIFE AND EXPECT SAME REWARD FROM HIM
OR HER, THIS IS WRONG!
When it becomes your attitude to always
please your husband or wife, the other person
responds naturally. Indeed, if nothing touches
the palm tree, it doesn't rattle.
She continued, my son, never carry how rich or
poor your family is into marriage. After all,
you knew very well the status of your family
and decided to marry that man or woman.
Love only compels would- be couples into
marriage but it doesn't sustain marriage.
Rather, understanding, patience,
communication and most importantly,
forgiveness sustain every marriage
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