Why sex is very important for your marriage

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Bro Kunle Emmanuel
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Why sex is very important for your marriage

Post by Bro Kunle Emmanuel » Fri Jan 09, 2015 10:36 am

We have another sex therapist in the house, Mrs. Edna Angasi from Port Harcourt, Rivers State, who sent in this very incisive piece, where she addresses married women on why they should give sex a pride of place in their marriage.

You are safe in Angasi's hands; enjoy her.
I have had cause to counsel men and women over the years and 90% of their marital problems seem to stem from infidelity, especially from the men. But in almost all of these cases, the reasons why the men stray is either because they are starved of sex by their wives or that the sex is bad.

As a Christian, I can never advise any man to cheat on his wife even if she denies you of sex. There are always ways to go round it and get her to satisfy you in bed. (That is a topic for another day). But today, I want to direct this topic to wives on why sex is very important to their husbands and how it goes a long way to keep their marriage intact.
What kinds of emotional needs does your sexual interest meet for your husband? In my several researches, I have noticed that sex is very important in a marriage and there are great benefits a fulfilling sex life creates in a man’s inner life and, conversely, there are wounds created when lovemaking is reluctant or lacking.

Some people say sex is overrated, and others believe otherwise. But in reality, sex can really help you beyond just your bedroom. Find out why sex is important in a relationship, and how you can use it to have a better life.
So what are the benefits of sex to your husband and marriage?

1. Fulfilling sex makes him feel loved and desired
A man who is satisfied sexually by his wife feels loved and desired and as such, puts in more effort to make his marriage work.
It is a way of telling your husband that he is the most important thing in your life and creates a feeling of total and absolute intimacy and bonding. If you make sex a priority in your marriage, your husband will feel honoured and will know that he is your number one priority.
It is a form of communication that speaks more forcefully, with less room for misinterpretation, than any other. The reason why this message is needed is that many men seem to live with a deep sense of loneliness that is quite foreign to women. And making love is the purest salve for that loneliness.
Deep down, a man really does feel isolated, even with his wife. But in making love, there is one other person in this world that he can be completely vulnerable with and be totally accepted and non-judged. It is a solace that goes very deep into the heart of a man.
This is one reason why some men may make advances at times that seem the furthest from sexual.

2. Fulfilling sex gives him confidence
Men are very conscious of their emotions and needs reassurance every now and then. In fact, your desire for him goes beyond making him feel wanted and loved. Your desire is a bedrock form of support that gives him power to face the rest of his daily life with a sense of confidence and well-being.
Every man understands that sex makes them feel good about themselves. They’re more confident and alive when their sex life is working.
Men feel better when they got more sex, and they are also physically better. What happens in the bedroom really does affect how they feel the next day at the office. Sex is a release of a day-to-day pressures and seems to make everything else better.

3. Sex makes him feel restored
Having sex with a loved one is one of the best ways to get a good night’s sleep. But did you know that a good round of making out in bed can restore your man's energy levels on days when he is feeling low? Did you know that lovemaking is nature’s best medicine against depression?
And did you know that men enjoy sex because it re-energizes them physically, and women enjoy having sex because it re-energizes them emotionally? Did you know that all extremely intelligent or creative people have had extremely active banging lives?
Then you would know that you are also helping your man to be active and ready to move the mountain for you and the family.

4. Lack of sexual desire can send him into depression
If your sexual desire gives your husband a sense of well-being and confidence, you can understand why an ongoing perception that you don’t desire him would translate into a nagging lack of confidence, withdrawal, and depression.
A man can’t just turn off the physical and emotional importance of sex, which is why its lack can be compared to the emotional pain you’d feel if your husband simply stopped talking to you.
If you deny your husband sex without any cogent reason, he feels deeply hurt. He will feel rejected, ineligible, insignificant, lonely, isolated, and abandoned as a result.
If you view sex as a purely physical need, it might indeed seem comparable to sleep. But once you realize that your man is actually saying, 'this is essential to my feeling of being loved and desired by you, and is critical to counteract my stress, my fears, and my loneliness,' well, that suddenly puts it in a different category.

5. Make sex a priority in your marriage
Are the many things that take your time and energy truly as important as having sex with your husband? Now would be a good time to re-evaluate priorities and put sex at the very top of it. If your husband is satisfied with your sex life, he will also make you his top priority.

Think about it, having great sex feels awesome and makes you and your husband feel all warm and fuzzy. And as a matter of fact, sex is pretty important in a relationship for a lot of other reasons too.

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